Most of us can forgive and forget—we just don’t want the other person to forget that we forgave!
That’s tough for us as humans, because we often see in our mercy a cost to ourselves. Perhaps, we think, that cost should be directly proportional to the amount of added value that the one we forgave should now see in us.
We’re very blessed that God is not like that, but is rather One who will “forgive their wickedness and will remember their sins no more.” (Hebrews 8:12)
Even if you can’t forget the mercy that you showed someone, don’t bring it up to them.
Let them get past their pasts.
With love, always,