It’s been said that when you want something the most, it’s the easiest opportunity for deception, because you’ll see what you want to see. And that’s the rub.
Deceiving yourself is the worst of all lies, because it’s the one that you are required to teach to others. It’s cheating yourself out of who you really are. It’s cheating yourself out of ever fixing YOU. As Dr. Dan Ariely noted from his vast number of studies:
“This result suggests that cheating is not driven by concerns about standing out. Rather, it shows that our sense of our own morality is connected to the amount of cheating we feel comfortable with. Essentially, we cheat up to the level that allows us to retain our self-image as reasonably honest individuals.”
The (Honest) Truth About Dishonesty: How We Lie to Everyone—Especially Ourselves
Or as Greville said, “No man was ever so much deceived by another as by himself.” So how do we avoid that? How do we avoid dying as fake people, full or regret instead of integrity, when that time should come?
The very first step has to be a desire for truth in love. It has to triumph over all else. That, it seems to me, is the mark of the truly courageous.
With love, always,