I’m kind of an A-or-F student. I’m the same way in most aspects of my life, from relationships to hobbies—either driven toward a goal or absolutely uninterested. I have come to realize that it is not some algorithm that motivates me; not some mere set of rules that I follow which stokes a fire within. Rather, it is curiosity, compassion, and a bond which is hard to describe. A crush? A longing to cherish something forever? To explore it deeply and get to know it? Of my relationship with God, Francis Chan rightly said,
“God is calling you to a passionate love relationship with Himself. The answer to religious complacency isn’t working harder at a list of do’s and don’ts—it’s falling in love with God.”
That’s so true. It’s impossible to be in love with someone “by technicality.” It’s impossible to have a crush on someone “per the rules.” It’s impossible to be curious about something “by mandate.” A burning passion does not arise out of decree, but out of desire. Desire to learn. Desire to connect. Desire to grow.
And while I’m thinking about it, enthusiasm is infectious. Choosing friends and partners is so important. Any raging fire can die down quickly if not continually stoked and fanned. It is much easier to burn brightly when another shines with you.
Lastly, marriage is designed to show the relationship between Christ and His bride, which is the church. It is meant to show endless love, and incredible respect. “So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies…and the wife must see to it that she respects her husband.” (Eph 5)
That’s so much easier to do when you have a goal and mission built around Christ.
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