I was talking with my wonderful coworker Darla once, and she had some good advice about love and choosing the right person. Darla told me a story that I’d like to share with you below:
A student asked his professor, “What is love?”
The teacher said, “In order to answer your question, go to a wheat field and choose the best stalk of wheat you can find. Pick the one that you think looks the best and come back. There is one rule that you have to follow, though: you can go through each row of wheat only once, and cannot turn back to pick.”
The student went to the field and went through the first row. He saw many beautiful pieces of wheat, and one that looked just perfect, but he began to wonder. “I’m only in the first row? What if I find something better in the second row? Or the third?”
Then he saw another, even nicer stalk! But what if an even nicer one was in the coming rows? Later, when he had finished more than half of the wheat field, he realized that the wheat he was seeing wasn’t as nice as in the previous rows. Had he missed all the good wheat? He was filled with angst and regret! In the end, he went back to his professor empty-handed.
The professor then told him, “This is love! You keep looking for a better one, but later you realize you have already missed the right person.”
“What is marriage then?” the student asked.
The teacher said, “In order to answer your question, go to the wheat field again and choose the nicest wheat and come back. There is one rule that you have to follow, though: you can go through each row of wheat only once, and cannot turn back to pick.”
The student went to the wheat field and had found a great piece of wheat before he even finished the first row, and happily, at that! And in this is love and commitment. Jesus said of our marriage to Him spiritually,
“No one, after putting his hand to the plow and looking back, is fit for the kingdom of God.” (Luke 9:62)