Luke 6:35 says, “But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return; and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High.”
One aspect missing from many marriages is that of selflessness. Relationships can’t be 50/50—they need to be 100/100, with each partner giving it all they have. Watch your expectations, that you don’t let them ruin your appreciation.
My friend Luke Wilson told me that there are four important four minute periods: the first four minutes in the morning, the last four minutes before work, the first four minutes after work, and the last four minutes before sleep. Some of those moments can be tired and make you want to be grumpy, but try to uplift your spouse and keep him/her encouraged. Things run a lot smoother with a little oil. And if your spouse is stressed or grumpy, be loving anyway, and remember Luke 6:35. A little selflessness can go a long way.